tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.comments2023-10-26T06:34:45.455-07:00Noonlight and moonshineAmanda Bradleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16521633938773660086noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-15981992354071930142018-08-05T22:49:35.518-07:002018-08-05T22:49:35.518-07:00This is great blog to know the valuable informatio...This is great blog to know the valuable informations. I appreciate your writing about this topic. <a href="https://tradeindiaresearch.com/freetrial.php" rel="nofollow">Free Stock tips</a>DIvyanshi Sharmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02770255132705873872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-67527357246896265292018-03-02T10:07:44.477-08:002018-03-02T10:07:44.477-08:00Have a great dayHave a great dayScience IT and Leisurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12427771296073038024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-71474970649643170932017-04-30T22:55:41.195-07:002017-04-30T22:55:41.195-07:00thank you! thank you! Amanda Bradleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16521633938773660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-29060734988318009272017-04-29T14:03:31.485-07:002017-04-29T14:03:31.485-07:00Thank you for writing this!Thank you for writing this!topshothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02940310323787453055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-32979883893435860502017-04-25T02:35:02.646-07:002017-04-25T02:35:02.646-07:00Well said! Yours is precisely the kind of voice wh...Well said! Yours is precisely the kind of voice which must be heard - the voice of moderation. Shimon Chaim ben Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05297433941576018824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-65385719816709268822017-03-08T00:40:31.145-08:002017-03-08T00:40:31.145-08:00BOOK FULL PROFIT IN ADANIPORTS 300 PUT, T2 ACHIEVE...BOOK FULL PROFIT IN ADANIPORTS 300 PUT, T2 ACHIEVED<br /><a href="http://equityresearchlab.com/Freetrial.php" rel="nofollow">FREE TRADING TIPS</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01624807151727774518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-46248208243184525762017-03-07T20:02:27.954-08:002017-03-07T20:02:27.954-08:00Attention !!
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Shana Tova from sunny Edgware!<br />SimchaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-12522522710537266952015-11-22T12:15:18.426-08:002015-11-22T12:15:18.426-08:00hear hear!hear hear!rstomelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16331145700397987702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-85956240365887219512015-11-22T06:10:05.128-08:002015-11-22T06:10:05.128-08:00WOOT!WOOT!Shoshannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777262707944304743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-87428110774192642292015-11-22T06:00:32.847-08:002015-11-22T06:00:32.847-08:00The whole idea of preferring an intermediary (the ...The whole idea of preferring an intermediary (the husband) to a halachic question seems odd to me. It's just asking for added confusion or miscommunication, which can change or lose potentially important details.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14514661989608311989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-73564437385915062542015-06-04T07:56:02.876-07:002015-06-04T07:56:02.876-07:00I would add that the halachic prescription not to ...I would add that the halachic prescription not to speak to the mourner unless spoken to should lead us to listen, to try to pick up from context what is appropriate. If you are not tremendously insightful and not graced with the social graces, quietly buttonhole someone "in the know" as to whether X, Y, or Z would be appropriate, but not loudly.goyisherebbehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09380171052449799815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-89592508803531484472015-06-04T05:18:06.236-07:002015-06-04T05:18:06.236-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.GabyBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083836666069361118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-19305775853992396792015-06-04T05:17:28.209-07:002015-06-04T05:17:28.209-07:00Great article. I was thinking about this, just to ...Great article. I was thinking about this, just to add 2 more things:<br />It may be a cheerful shiva house, don't judge them about that, sometimes even in tragic cases, that's what it is like. People cope with tragedy in different ways. Shiva is quite public, some people don't want to put their grief on show. <br />Secondly if you say that you will do something, do it. So many people say that they will be in touch after shiva, or similar and don't. Grief doesn't end after shiva or sheloshim and it's then that people feel the impact and most alone.GabyBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083836666069361118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-25670792968380274812015-06-04T05:16:20.728-07:002015-06-04T05:16:20.728-07:00And re: talking with the mourner about the circums...And re: talking with the mourner about the circumstances of the death. You're entirely right, it can be cathartic for the mourner to talk about what happened and how. However, that lead should be taken by the mourner and not the visitor. Amanda Bradleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16521633938773660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-33596082242874619532015-06-04T05:08:36.150-07:002015-06-04T05:08:36.150-07:00Thank you, Rabbi Maroof, for your comment. It'...Thank you, Rabbi Maroof, for your comment. It's impossible to prescribe every aspect of shiva visit behaviour, of course. and i am sure that different 'rules' apply for a communal rabbi. but i personally have been to too many shivahs where the mourners are unable to see or talk to those visiting in person because they were constantly on the phone. Once upon a time, calling a mourner was 'pas nicht'. It seems like that taboo has largely gone, but i stand by my advice to write instead of calling as a general rule. there will always be exceptions. <br /><br />Perhaps we've reached a time when we need to make separate visiting times and phone-calling times for those sitting shivah?Amanda Bradleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16521633938773660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-4606969896646514152015-06-04T04:34:02.433-07:002015-06-04T04:34:02.433-07:00Two more comments about shiva in general: 1) Do no...Two more comments about shiva in general: 1) Do not stay more than 15 or 20 minutes, especially if you're not a close friend. I sat shiva recently and found myself trying to send telepathic messages of "please, just leave!" to people who stayed and stayed and unfortunately didn't get the message. 2) If you are the only visitor, you do not need to stay until the next visitor shows up. It's fine to leave the person who is sitting shiva alone. In fact, he/she will probably appreciate the time to think, eat, drink or go to the bathroom!Brachahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01867581872280487691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-82119428808749674832015-06-04T04:15:03.543-07:002015-06-04T04:15:03.543-07:00I very much enjoyed this post. However, as someone...I very much enjoyed this post. However, as someone who served as a pulpit rabbi for almost the past decade and a half, I must respectfully disagree with two of the points mentioned here, particularly #3. Not infrequently, congregants observed shiva "out of town" or in Israel, and I cannot tell you how deeply hurt and offended families were when they did not receive condolence phone calls from members of the synagogue during that time. If the rabbi could not visit in person, he was absolutely expected to call at least once, if not several times, over the course of the shiva. Also, I have found that mourners often DO wish to focus on the circumstances of the death of their loved ones, the events leading up to the end, etc. Of course, as you mentioned, one must allow the mourner to open and direct the flow of the conversation. However, if they do venture into this territory, I've seen (at least in my experience) that being asked follow-up questions about the details can be cathartic for some. Rabbi Joshua Maroofhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12585369620887846940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-26054096845562390792015-06-04T04:14:20.734-07:002015-06-04T04:14:20.734-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Rabbi Joshua Maroofhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12585369620887846940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-90018650006513016062014-06-01T16:45:18.599-07:002014-06-01T16:45:18.599-07:00So sad so tragic. Sh'koach Amanda for the beau...So sad so tragic. Sh'koach Amanda for the beautiful words and thoughts. One day you must give this to Ros. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02957636333173128235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-7725336174498123282014-06-01T14:37:36.572-07:002014-06-01T14:37:36.572-07:00beautifully written Amanda. BDEbeautifully written Amanda. BDEAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07212001592771359457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-24943287101663597432014-03-21T10:38:19.408-07:002014-03-21T10:38:19.408-07:00about these 'talmidai chachamim': what i...about these 'talmidai chachamim': what is their attitude towards democracy, voting, political systems, and the like? they'd probably point out that democracy is not a torah concept, that it is Greek and not a political system that has it's roots in Yiddishkeit. Perhaps -given their views on personal autonomy and freedom of choice [any colour as long as it's black] - consider the possibility that they don't think much of the idea of participatory democracy, so they do not set much store by the whole process; that for them it's just so much western hefkerut; that people should not be choosing who governs them because it's a meaningless exercise and those who do are wasting torah time; free will means to do Hashem's will as signposted by daas torah and not to think for yourselfreaderwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18161067976270762268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-4611285446233484522013-12-18T17:30:37.916-08:002013-12-18T17:30:37.916-08:00well said: yehudim those who 'acknowledge...well said: yehudim those who 'acknowledge' 'thank' as in hoda'ahreaderwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18161067976270762268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2866744379803588786.post-43305314792635213042013-11-09T17:02:22.716-08:002013-11-09T17:02:22.716-08:00no need to worry about external politics -- our en...no need to worry about external politics -- our enemies just need to bide their time and Israeli society will destroy itself financially, spiritually, and morally [and a few other adverbs -ly]: financially from all those who take without giving, spiritually from those who delude themselves that they have an exclusive knowledge of God's will, and morally from those who act as if their ends justify any means whatsoeverreaderwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18161067976270762268noreply@blogger.com